Small Shifts, Big Relief
You don’t need a whole new life. You need a few new rhythms.
I can’t believe I’m about to share this story, but here we go. I had a flashback regarding a brilliant idea on how I was going to ‘fix’ my exhaustion, by scheduling a relaxing spa day.
I booked the massage. Got the facial. Sat in the sauna until my skin radiated a healthy glow. You know what? I could have saved some money by sitting outside in the hot and humid Florida sunshine. There I go again, chasing squirrels while sharing. Back to my time at the spa.
While there, I found unfamiliar peace while drinking cucumber water out of a glass with a real lime and mint leaves in it, because apparently that’s what rested people do. Then I went to the softly lit ‘resting’ room, found a nice spa bed in the corner, with the scent of lavendar permeating throughout the room. I laid down and closed my eyes.
That spa experience took about four hours, I felt amazing.
Upon returning to my car, I checked my phone, and within twelve minutes I was right back where I started. Heart racing. Mind spinning. That familiar knot in my stomach tightening like it had never left. I was supposed to feel better…longer! Why can’t I get a break?
Because the spa didn’t fix the problem. It just gave me a really expensive nap. I wish I could laugh about it, but it’s the honest truth.
The real issue wasn’t that I needed relaxation. It was that my entire life was built on a pace I was never designed to sustain.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
— Romans 12:2
When Your Feelings Tell You Otherwise...
When we think about relief from exhaustion, we usually think big:
“If I could just get a vacation, I’d be fine.”
“Once this season is over, things will slow down.”
“I need a complete life overhaul.”
“Nothing will change unless everything changes.”
I believed all of these. And they kept me stuck. Because when relief feels massive, we never start. The mountain looks too big to climb, so we sit at the bottom and keep burning out.
Talk about burn out…I had worked almost 20 years before I had taken my first ‘real’ vacation. Ugh!
But here’s what I’ve learned the hard way: it’s not the big changes that save us. It’s the small shifts.
The Deeper Truth
Romans 12:2 doesn’t say “be transformed by a complete life overhaul.” It says “be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Renewing. Present tense. Ongoing. A little at a time.
Think about how God works in Scripture. He didn’t part the Red Sea and then teleport the Israelites to the Promised Land. They walked. Step by step. Day by day. Manna came one morning at a time.
He didn’t heal Naaman with a dramatic miracle. He told him to go wash in a river. Seven times. One dip at a time.
And Jesus? He didn’t feed the 5,000 with a catered banquet. He took what was small, five loaves and two fish, and multiplied it.
God specializes in small things becoming big things. And that’s exactly how relief from exhaustion works.
Here are the small shifts that changed everything for me:
I started saying “let me think about it” instead of “yes” on the spot. Just buying myself 24 hours before committing to anything transformed my calendar.
I set a phone curfew. Nothing after 9pm. My friends and family were like “what if there’s an emergency?” My response…please call 911, I would have to do that anyway. The world will survive without me during that time.
I built in 10-minute buffers between meetings and commitments so I wasn’t constantly rushing from one thing to the next.
I started asking myself one question before adding anything to my plate: “Does this bring life, or does it drain it?”
I gave myself permission to leave things unfinished at the end of the day. The to-do list will be there tomorrow. And tomorrow is not my enemy.
None of these were dramatic. None required a sabbatical or a move to the countryside or a complete identity shift. They were small. Doable. Sustainable.
And together, over time, they changed my life.
What This Means for You
Sweet friend, you don’t need a whole new life. You need a few new rhythms.
What’s one small shift you could make this week? Just one. Not five. Not a whole system. One thing that protects your energy instead of spending it.
Maybe it’s saying no to one optional commitment. Maybe it’s going to bed 30 minutes earlier. Maybe it’s taking a walk at lunch instead of eating at your desk.
Start small. Stay consistent. And watch God multiply what seems insignificant into something that changes everything.
“Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin.” — Zechariah 4:10 (NLT)
Remember This Truth
You don’t need a complete overhaul. You need a next right step.
Small shifts lead to big relief. One boundary at a time. One “no” at a time. One deep breath at a time.
And the God who takes five loaves and two fish and feeds thousands? He can take your one small shift and build a whole new rhythm out of it.
Start today. Start small. Start believing that you don’t have to change everything to change something.
An Invitation
Before you scroll away, I want you to name it:
What’s one small shift you can make this week?
Maybe it’s a phone curfew. Maybe it’s the 24-hour “let me think about it” rule. Maybe it’s leaving the dishes in the sink and going to bed on time.
Reply or leave a comment and tell me your one shift. I’ll be cheering you on. Because small steps, taken together, lead somewhere beautiful.
Joyfully yours,
Tina 💛
📣 What’s one small shift you’re making this week? Reply or comment below. Small steps, big relief.
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This is so good!!! Thank you💞
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Thanks for sharing.